Distance in Relationships:

A distance in a relationship can affect exactly in two ways.One is, the person comes closer to you with a strong and a very difficult to break bond.And second is, the person goes away from you so far that at times you don't feel the need of them being into your life.


When looking at the stage where the pysical distances works as a kind of medication to tear down the abstract distances in the relationships, we talk about the strength of the relationships.The strength increases and as due to the distance you get time to understand the person.It has been like a universal fact that "Entities are most valued in their absence".When the person is away, somehow even the smallest statement made by him/her for you flashes your mind at the given similar situations.You feel the lonely niche in your routine and the life going on, though everything seems perfect by all your effort some sort of unsatisfaction remains which is even though sound strange but may be filled up perfectly even by just a comment or a compliment made by the person who is away from you. You start valuing the person more and more at every point of time. One of the very good example uptill now i have found is about children when in the hostel or dorme value their home and the effort put by their parents to bring up them so well and comforting every moment by helping and being with them at every posible stage which in dorme or hostel is found to be missing by them. Even when you talk about infacuations there are many real life cases in which these turns out into love and then build up themseleves into the very strong relationships when they work out with a distance in a relationship. Well, so distance can also play a major role in bringing people togather and get tied up in a strong bonds.


But now when we talk about the negative impact of the relationships,well this physical distance can act also as a slow poison in the well decorated perfect container of this so-called relationships. The most spiking factor which according to me that comes here is the feeling of being ' ignored ' .Well, with every phase of life and change of place and time, the life-style of the person changes accordingly and that is a natural impact which works out on every person. As this kind of change when happens on only one side of the relationship then it does create these kind of feelings of being ' ignored ' as the situation on the opposite shore is not being understood properly. Sometime, the distance brings out the real qualities of the opposite person in the relation which may not have been visible when you are right next to each other. The another important characteristic that plays another important role is patience and tolerance. At times due to long distance and not enough communications, things do get mis-interpreted and then people tend to loose their patience and tolerance power which end up in cutting-off the relationships.


When i wrote the word relationship, i meant to apply it every relationship a human being can get involved into.This is very much applicable to the children who spent their much of the time in hostel and then that distance may create the impacts in their relationships with the family.It also applies to the two people involved in the relations like marriage, commited or friendship etc.Just, it is in our hands whether to make our relations work like medications or like poison.A bit of undertanding, patience and tolerance can bring out many different colours to this wonderful thread.Just value all the good things of the people related to you and then see how the relations change and fit into the right positions in the game of life of human being.

At the end the quote worth keeping in mind:

"Everything existent on this earth has atleast been gifted by one good quality and not a single thing on the earth is made perfect by God"